It all began like this..
The writer at the lawyer’s place was filling up the sale deed.
“Full name, sir.”
“No! No! We need the full name, and Middle name.”
“I don’t have a middle name.”
“Sir, it is better to give a full name.”
I was tense. All this land registration is a tense business for me. I glared at him. With a vengeance I let him have it.
“Write down: Kshetrapalapuram Vaidyanatha Durgadasa Panchanadeeswara Sampath Kumara Sharma.”
His mouth went up and down like that of a frog startled by the appearance of a snake.
“I will just put Sampath sir.”
“No! make the deed in the name of Beena.”
I moved away. My mind drifted back to the day when the deal was made.
(Excerpt from chapter one of”Mrs Farmer Mr Consultant “ based on the popular “Beena series that appeared in Suelkha”now being published by Authorspress. For further details contact D.Sampath at firstname.lastname@example.org orSudarshan Kcherry at email@example.com).
“That is part of the beauty of all literature. You discover that your longings are universal longings, that you’re not lonely and isolated from anyone. You belong.”
― F. Scott Fitzgerald
That if only all the organizations in the world created a thread of belonging entwining every individual in the organization to the core of itself, in such a way that every single person rose, as the organization rose, would be a situation so ideal that each one would say, “I have been working for this organization for the last 22 years.” With pride. With belonging. That.
“If our well-being depends upon the interaction between events in our brains and events in the world, and there are better and worse ways to secure it, then some cultures will tend to produce lives that are more worth living than others; some political persuasions will be more enlightened than others; and some world views will be mistaken in ways that cause needless human misery.”
― Sam Harris, The Moral Landscape: How Science Can Determine Human Values
A sense of belonging comes from owning up one’s own vulnerabilities and one’s own strengths and not trying to be something that you are not. It also means accepting other people’s vulnerabilities and strengths and accommodating them in your community in a functional way. Disowning weaknesses while striving to achieve strengths for the sake of performance, is the biggest mistake committed by performance-based organisations.
G Venkataswamy of Arvind Eye is a great example of a person who accommodated both strengths and weaknesses of his family and staff to build one of the fastest growing eye care systems in the world. This is a place where employees love to work, because they belong.
Easterners get energized primarily through a sense of belonging and not merely through performance excellence. The substantiveness of an employee is directly proportional to the feeling of well being that he gets from his company.
To read more, be sure to buy my book, ‘Wish to Belong, Want to Perform‘, to be released by Authorspress India this month.
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The divine bridge was being built.
The army of apes, huge and magnificent, was toiling day in and day out. There were other animals helping out too. The tiny squirrel looked at itself, a small being in the vast universe of huge animals, and thought, I want to help too.
Carrying a rock as small as a nut, in its little mouth, the squirrel placed it on the sethu (bridge) built by the vanara (monkey) sena. It came back for more rocks and repeated the action. The squirrel also rolled itself in the mud and sand, and carried the mud onto the bridge to drop it there. The apes saw this and laughed. They could not see how this little mud and small rocks would help them build the bridge.
But Lord Rama was thrilled. He picked up the squirrel and ran his fingers with affection across its back. Thus, the three lines were formed. Indian squirrels have since then had these three lines on their backs.
Rama realized the contributions of all those who belonged.
He heard the squirrel’s whisper, “I too belong.”
My forthcoming book details this philosophy by taking real examples of organisations that have thrived using the philosophy of nurturing happy employees to create an ambience of family-style belonging.
Read my forthcoming publication by Authors press India
Author: D. Sampath
Title: Wish to belong, Want to perform
“There is no pre-established harmony between the furthering of truth and the well-being of humanity.”
~ Friedrich Nietzsche (October 15, 1844 – August 25, 1900)
“Never, never be afraid to do what’s right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. Society’s punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
It’s in the lightness of the mind that the weight of my words will fall.
Silence was what I could add
Buddha sat before the bodhi tree
Near him sat his disciple three
Ananda The boldest and oldest
Always was a man with a quest
Came an old man in his presence
Says he it doesn’t make any sense
Asked does god really exist?
Definitely you’ll see him if u persist
Walked in a young fella and bowed
Is there a god worth being loved?
Hearing this said the great sage
God, just a myth, your disowned image
Entered a man who seemed unsure
Is there a god who can miseries cure?
So that we can get away from all violence
This Buddha answered only with silence
Ananda the trustworthy was confused
Asked the master who looked bemused
Three different answers you gave sage
Your inconsistency is it not an outrage?
“People without thinking can’t accept the lord
The first, an atheist, is now thinking hard on god
Second is now questioning his belief that had him scared
Third was thinking aloud; silence was what I could add”